Baby blues syndrome : Realize it and Acknowledge it

In previous time, talking about the trauma of labour is always been taboo before. Nowadays, The truth of awareness will guide many new mothers to heal all the scars, open to the chapter of new life as mother, and move on.

What's wrong with me?

Why i got angry easily?

Why i wanna cry all day long?

I'm so tired

I feel so isolated, I wanna be free

I'm so fragile and frustrated that I couldn't do anything

I dependent to everyone, I'm useless

It's not me!!

Negative feeling post birth, or baby blues syndrome are common occurrence postpartum. The National Institute of Mental Health reports that up to 80% new mothers report some experiences the baby blues. But while they’re common, the baby blues can be debilitating if they catch you off guard.

Giving birth is an amazing, yet difficult phase of every woman has passed through. There are good and bad feeling about it. Feeling good, no surprise here, you succeed to enter new journey of life as being a mom, however, you can also feeling bad at the same time because of multiple unreasonable and complicated factors. When you giving birth, your body and mind will feel different after pregnancy, partly because you’re physically exhausted of adjusting to a new life, partly because your hormones levels are changing quickly, and cumulation of other factors. Your body experience a drop in esterogen and progesterone after give birth, which can lead to mood swings and lead to postpartum depression. Crying more than usual, feeling of anger, social withdrawal, guilt associated with motherhood, feeling disconnected from love ones are some signs of postpartum syndrome. Furthermore, it also  getting worse when you lack of social support and feeling so isolated. Let's we check our condition by asking our-self whether we only have experienced short-term negative mood, baby blues syndrome, or postpartum depression. The more you figure it out the truth, the more you take early action to find out the solution, seek for help from professional health care, and support from your partner, family, and friends. Don’t be shy, don’t be afraid, Remember, you are not alone in this world as being a mom connect us all.

In my case, without feeling doubt and afraid, I have to say that I have experienced the baby blues syndrome. My sadness occurred because of traumatic labour event and multiple reasons that I couldn't tell you. Everything was unpredictable when I was giving birth, firstly, I was being recommended Caesar operation by the midwife because of my medical history of asthma and the position of baby in my womb which imperfect. On the contrary, based on my last diagnosed in 37 weeks showed everything was ok, and I could do the natural birth. So, it was making me down, but I couldn’t do anything, I just tried to do my best and let God did the rest. Finally, because the miracle of God I could undergo the gentle birth. Unfortunately, the unpredictable event happened was when overall my natural birth had gone well, the condition of my baby was so terrible when he arrived, he’s got that tail in his neck, so,  it made difficult for him to breath and even cry, he need to be NICU for couple days in hospital.  it even got worsen when I couldn’t do early breastfeeding initiation and couldn’t meet him eye to eye and skin to skin for couples’ days.The midwife blamed me of all the crucial event. They said I should have done Cesario operation for savety reason. Honestly, i was so fragile at that time, so their statement made me felt so guilty about and broke my heart so bad.

Fortunately, I didn’t have to wait too long, only 5 days, the hospital allowed to carry him home since his condition was getting better and better everyday. I was so grateful and happy. However, the fact showed the drama had continued to grow since I had terrible experiences that made me angry and sad easily. I also become easily panic if everything happened to my son even it was not big stuff. Finally, I realized  that the negative thinking and feeling I had experienced was disturbing, I have tried so many ways to deal with it, but it was hard. I have tried to earn support from my partner, family, and friend, but sometimes it didn't enough. So, I decided to seek professional health care who can explain things and reassure you in objective view.  The truth is talking with the counselor may be its not enough to solve all my problem, but when talked with her, at least it opened the door to progress for me, it was an enormous turning point for me. It takes couple months even until now in process to be totally healed. Well, it worked really well.

In the end, by doing this therapeutic writing or word healing, I want to share with you my traumatic yet amazing journey in my life as being a mother. The main purpose is to invite you that what happened to me also happened to many women in the world and that was normal. By realize and acknowledge it were the only way to solve the problem. The sooner you have awareness to search the core of problem, the sooner you will find the solution about it.

Come on moms, your mental health as new parent is essential and precious as your physical health. Let's do it for your kindness, you are a mother, you need to be strong and happy mother to raise a strong and happy child, and give positive energy for the whole family. 

Okay, let me know about your experiences, it is more excited when we can share the difficulties together. Hope my article give benefit to you.

Here I also will share some beneficial links of article and questionnaire related to baby blues and postpartum syndrome:

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https://www.independent.co.uk/arts-entertainment/children-the-childbirth-conspiracy-1306105.html
https://www.webmd.com/depression/guide/postpartum-depression#1
https://www.babycenter.com/postpartum-depression-quiz
https://www.fresno.ucsf.edu/pediatrics/downloads/edinburghscale.pdf